Official CAL statement

This is a official CAL statement regarding the cancelation of this crochet-a -long project. In this statement I will give some explanation about this decision and how things will continue for everyone who already purchased something or was waiting to start with this CAL.

Let’s start by explaining why I came to this decision in first place. From the moment of the announcement of this project, it has been a continues flow of attention. Some good, but also a lot of bad and negative. Of course I was prepared for some negativity – you can’t make everyone happy and of course there would be some commenting or complaining here and there. To tackle this we (a team of 10 people) took months to prepare ourselfs for this and we wrote all possible information down in some files to tackle most of the simple questions relating to the CAL. From day one it was a constant flow of just asking away and almost spamming all channels with the most simple questions. Well, we expected that as people often first comment and ask before taking time to read something. So that was not the reason to cancel at all.

As said, from the moment the CAL is on, there is a HUGE load of negative comments. Most of them are received in my private communication portals, others were posted in the Facebook group. And with negative I don’t mean : “I don’t like it” or “it is all a bit confusing how it works” . No, there are a lot of other messages. And of course, it is just deleting and blocking, but in the end you see them all and it will be on your mind. And it just continues, how many you ignore, delete or block. It soon takes over the positive vibe a CAL has to bring and it ruins your drive to go on. To state some examples : in 4 days time I had to deal with 354 emails/messages which contained critics about me as a person, my gender, my sexuality, my language writing – native or not native, my crochet work which wouldn’t be good enough for a CAL, I did it to earn money, I would be a thief, I wouldn’t be honest and take provid of people, people find the need to send whole messages full of swear words…and I can continue for a while here. Besides that I’m not the only one inflicted by this all, there was also the need to argue with my testers/translators that their work wasn’t right. Posting photos of their work full of marked circles with correction options. First of all, how can you judge a design if you even haven’t seen a pattern yet, besides that…how do you think someone feels when her work is being exposured in front of thousands of people saying it sucks. That is just rude. Well I could continue on as there was many more…however I think you’ll have an idea now. And this is just a first week, how would this evolve when the CAL is actually running. Sorry everyone, but I’m also a human being with feelings and I draw a line here. I intended to host a crochet event, not pulling myself out there to let take away my dignity and selfrespect. If you feel like you need let some frustration go, just go outside for a good walk or shout it out on a place no one will see or hear you. People think they just can put down everything, scroll further along…but ever thought of the option that you actually saying something to someone on the other side and you possibly can hurt someone else.

As we already paused the Facebook group after laying down so many restrictions on different matters, people still continue with this kind of behaviour. In one weekend I again received 52 messages full of insults. Many of you commented with telling me to just remove or block the people who doesn’t behave, but this is not one or two and it is a full dayjob to moderate this. Explaining this all has made me decide to just cancel the entire CAL. Cancelation means the Facebook group will be deleted and the timeline of the CAL will be erased. So there will be no crochet-a-long anymore over ten weeks of time as stated. I designed this pattern as one of my best but it already has such a negative vibe that I can’t host it any longer with a positive intention. Only looking at my design makes me wanna throw it away. I’m done being used as a target to shoot on and this whole thing was meant to just create a beautiful event where we all could enjoy some happiness and creativity. But it seems this is impossible these days without having a online, virtual war against you. With people, stores and many more against you. And for those of you who think this decision is a bit dramatic, I am honest and not gonna lie on what you get when your expose yourself with something you did. But that doesn’t mean you have to just swallow it all and act happy. This is how things go and how wonderful the crochet community of which we often speak also can be. And it isn’t new, I have seen it with many events hosted for larger groups of crocheters/knitters, and I also have seen what it does to people. Well if I would just continue pretending this all isn’t happening I also wouldn’t take or teach a lesson from it.

Of course I realize this decision also delivers some inconveniance. But I have tried to create the best solutions possible. For everyone who purchased the pattern on Ravelry, you will receive the full pattern at once. I will send out an update with this information through Ravelry as well, but don’t worry….you receive the pattern for the fee payed. The same goes for everyone who liked to join with the free, English version here on the blog. In the menu on top of the blog you will find all parts of the CAL available from now on. The pattern on Etsy will be uploaded later around June, as there is so much negativity about this whole issue already selling it through Etsy, I don’t need any more of this for now. You can wait for some months.

Of course there are the yarn packs which you can order at different stores. Many of you ordered one and I would suggest just keeping it ordered and crochet the pattern once you receive it. The stores can’t help this and if you wanted to join the CAL in March, why still not make it. It doesn’t change a thing.

In fact I do hope many of you still will hold their own mini-CAL. Make it a tribute to my pattern. Maybe I myself have lost touch with it, you who intended to join still love creating it. Crocheting a part a week just for yourself is a good meditation and if you really need help you can always send a message through this website. I will try to help you where I can…on my time. But also respect my choice in this, it took a lot of courage to make this decision as I canceled a project of which I worked on for months and spend many hours, nights, money and effort in. And not only me, a lot of people with me. But I will not put myself out 8 hours a day besides a dayjob to just let people take advantage of me. Then you’ll have it and this is it. As this whole thing has left a real bad taste and feeling I intend to get out of the media for a while. I had a lot of new pattern work ready to be released already but I feel it is time to get off for a while. I’m sick of the world for now… I know there are some good folks around…but it seems there are even more negative people around. We were talking about a crochet thing here, why the need to judge someone personally and break down every single part of selfrespect and dignity one can have ? For all the ones who are responsible for this decision, think about that and the fact how you ruin the happiness of others….

Mark a.k.a. The Guy with the Hook

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  1. That is an awful shame. I’ve had lots of experience with stupid and negative comments online so can get why it is overwhelming and hurtful. You’re design looks beautiful and I was looking forward to possibly trying it. I look forward to maybe still getting the pattern someday and encourage you to continue sharing your amazing talent!

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  2. bonjour, continuez s’ il vous plait, ne vous laissez pas influencer par de mauvais commentaires, tous les goûts sont dans la nature, beaucoup de personnes vous laissent de bons commentaires , c’est à celles là qu’ il faut penser !! Merci de vos modèles magnifiques !

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  3. Dear Mark, I feel so bad and am ashamed to be part of a community with such a dark side. I love your work and will wait patiently untill you feel the drive and joy again to share new projects and design. All the best to you.

    Kind regards,
    Annebeth

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  4. I can only echo the sentiments of your supporters – I don’t understand how people can be so nasty and so vile.
    I wish more people believed in the statement. ‘If you haven’t got anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all’. I understand that not everyone agrees with what a person does or says , but why not just scroll on.
    I am going to honour you and do the CAL
    anyway – thank you for an amazing CAL that can be done in my own time.
    I am so sorry for what you have been through – sometimes the human race leaves a lot or be desired.
    With love and hugs hugs xox

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    1. Dear Mark,
      I am sorry for all the mean messages you’ve received. Especially the once directed to you personally. No one has the right to attack you. Hopefully they’ll feel ashamed after reading your post. And if not so, let’s hope karma gets them!

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      1. So sad to hear that you have been treated in this way. Can only send you positive vibes from the UK and say how much I love your work. Stay strong x

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    2. There are so many trolls on the internet today and they think it’s funny to ruin lives. It is just sick. I bet more than half of them don’t crochet or knit. I pray he finds peace in his work and comes to realize that this was not the community but a bunch of trolls who sit behind a computer all day with nothing good in their lives. It has happened to others. I wish him well 😦 sad this happened

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  5. People can be real jerks. I’m so sorry you had to endure so much negativity. What difference gender or sexuality makes in a crochet project is beyond me. I for one was really looking forward to a male created pattern and my husband loves the blanket. I’ll hunt down a kit before they disappear.

    Keep your chin up and be proud of who you are!

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  6. This brought me right back to school, to being bullied by relentless teenagers. I understand and completely support the decision you made. In all honesty, I never heard of you nor your patterns but I felt compelled to read this as it came up on my Facebook feed. I’m disgusted by the “adults” that have done this to you, ashamed to share the same hobby with these people. I’m angry on your behalf and all I can do is wish you all the best in your recovery from such abuse.

    All my love and all my support,
    Jennifer Bibby

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  7. Oh how very sad! I am so sorry that you have been so abused and hurt. It’s unacceptable. It’s astonishing that people feel that it’s ok to break someone down.

    As a fellow designer I understand only too well how much time, effort and money goes into producing a CAL. I feel so heart sore that you have come to this decision. It must have been an extremely difficult time for you.

    Your work is stunning!! Hope that time will heal and that we will see more from you in the future.

    Sending a big hug.

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  8. OMG, I’m in tears, Marc! I’m lost for words! 😥 I have had my share of nasty comments so I understand how it feels. Just remember that when people point fingers 3 fingers are pointing back at them. Our popular politics have empowered the lowlifes of the world and now they have crawled out from their dark places spewing words and actions of hatred and division. But we are many and we are strong. Goodness, kindness, compassion and tolerance will win the day. Hang on. Hold tight. In the meantime continue shining your bright light out into our dark world, with your beautiful patterns. HUGS!!!!

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  9. This is so sad and i am so sorry that you have had to deal with so much negativity!! Here’s to a great year and as soon as i have crocheted my Spice Market i will publish it on FB complimenting you.
    Kind Regards Amor

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  10. Lieve Mark,
    Verleden jaar had je het erover dat wandelen in het bos je verlichting gaf toen je er ook even doorheen zat. Of was het al langer geleden?
    Toen heb ik al gezegd dat ik dolgraag een keer met je mee wil. Gewoon in stilte of pratend, net wat je op dat moment nodig hebt want ik wil je zo graag hier doorheen helpen.
    Het moet verschrikkelijk zijn al die haatmails. Ik kan er niet over uit hoe iemand dat in zn hoofd haalt.. waarom?
    We wonen niet zover van elkaar vandaan. Echt als je gezelschap wilt.. met alle liefde van de wereld kom ik richting jou.
    Liefs xxx ooo xxx

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  11. I am so sad to hear this and it breaks my heart that fellow crocheters could be so nasty and cruel. Our art form should be one of love, warmth, and welcoming. You have my total support in your decision, though I am disappointed as I was looking forward to the CAL. I had not before seen your work. The notice of this CAL brought it to my attention and I think you are talented and do beautiful work. I intend to purchase patterns of yours in the future AND make this piece of art, whether on my own or as a CAL. Keep your chin up!

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  12. Wat naar om te lezen! Echt vreselijk dat mensen zo kunnen zijn. Zo onnadenkend wat een pijn ze iemand hiermee kunnen doen! En waarom? Niemand verplicht ze toch om hier aan mee te doen!
    Mark ik hoop dat je deze reacties ook leest, van de mensen die je een hart onder de riem willen steken. Ik begrijp heel goed dat je deze keuze hebt gemaakt en heb groot respect voor het statement dat je hierover hebt geschreven. Ik hoop dat je snel weer je enthousiasme terug vindt voor je prachtige ontwerpen en deze fijne hobby. Ik wil je dan ook laten weten dat ik gelijk enorm ethousiast was over dit ontwerp en de mooie kleuren. Vooral de lavendel en mint. Vind het ook top van je, dat je alsnog de patronen met ons deelt. Ga hem ook zeker alsnog maken. Ik hoop dat je zelf over een tijdje ook weer met een goed gevoel naar dit ontwerp kunt kijken. Vind het heel naar voor je dat dit mooie project, zo heeft moeten aflopen voor je.

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  13. Het is heel verdrietig wat er is gebeurd.
    Er is momenteel enorm veel agressie en polarisatie in de wereld.
    Het enige wat we kunnen doen is heel alert zijn op ons eigen gedrag en gedachten zodat wij niet ook in diezelfde valkuil terecht komen, waarin we anderen van een stempel voorzien of uitsluiten.

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  14. Many years ago o would have been shocked that people can do this to another. I myself have been trolled for having a disability, disability! I get how upset you are, just remember for every one troll there are hundreds who love you and your work. Please speak about this to your loved ones and don’t bottle things up, you are an amazing designer and I love following your Instagram account as its like a breath of fresh air and I have a huge respect for you and your work xx

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  15. I was looking forward to doing this CAL It is so sad that there are idiots out there with lots of negativity but you need to do what is good for your soul! I wish you positivity and love.

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  16. A lot of LOVE from Denmark
    Heel viel Liefde en nej mut nået stoppe
    Gloef in jej self.
    Masser af kærlighed fra Danmark.
    Du er en fantastisk kunstner. Tro på dig selv og din fantastiske kunst.
    😀🧶🎉🇩🇰🌸🤩🤩🤩

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  17. I don‘t understand how People can react like that. I like your Designs. The Spice Market will be my first Project of your Patterns. I will do it with the Maxi Sugar Rush in the Colors of the Cotton 8 Version. It will become a Tablecloth.
    And I don’t care what gender a designer is. The main thing is that I like it.
    I cannot design myself, but I know how much time, work and money is involved. Respect!

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  18. I am so sad that you have been abused. Thank you for sharing your talent. I had been looking for a mandala afghan to crochet for a long time and none I found were just right then I saw your Spice Market afghan , it is beautiful and I immediately wanted to make it. I could not believe you were generously selling the pattern so cheaply and ignorant people complained and abused you , just awful.

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  19. Mark I am so sorry to hear this.
    You are a very talented person and your pattern is absolutely gorgeous.
    Like many others, I had already bought the pattern, and have earmarked other pattens iof yours that I would like to do .
    Hold your head high, and believe in yourself again.

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  20. Didn’t know about all this at all, just got here by accident. Though, reading this story makes me sad, bit angry, and again struck by the fact that “people” can be like this (judging like that and even putting it out there, to you personally). I’m sorry for that!!
    Hope you will never loose your passion for the things you do and dream about, even though you’re taking a break right now. And more important, be who you want to be, or need to be. As long as that is what makes you happy…
    I wish you luck and hope that eventually something positive will come out of this negative experience, which you didn’t earn at all. I think it’s good to draw a line sometimes, there should be more attention for this online bullying, which seems to be too easy for a big group of persons these days..
    But never doubt yourself!!

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  21. Wat afschuwelijk. Wat een nutteloos leven moet je hebben om op deze manier iemands plezier en dat van velen te ondermijnen. Ga dat lekker bij je vrienden doen.
    Sterkte Mark! Laat je in elk geval je haakplezier niet ontnemen. Dank dat je in elk geval je patroon toch wilt delen. Het is prachtig!!! Ik ga zeker lekker in mijn eentje CALlen.

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  22. Hi Mark,
    I am so sorry to hear about all the nastiness you and your team have had to endure. Although the trolls are in the minority, they are the loudest and it hurts. I support you in your decision to cancel the CAL, but remember they have not won. Please don’t let them color your future. Your work is beautiful and the world will be a lesser place without it. Blessings.
    Susan Inak

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  23. I am so sorry that this has happened to you. I admire your talent. Every time I see something new of yours, I say out loud, “wow!” Most of the time I can tell it’s yours just by the style without knowing your name, and that is something special indeed. I am a new designer, having only had my first pattern published last month. I was working on a CAL, but I am now thinking that if this has happened to you, what hope do I have? I am thinking twice about everything now. I hope that you are okay. I don’t know why people have to be so terrible to you. From what I’ve seen, you are among the best new designers out there. Please keep going. Take a rest when you need to, but don’t give up completely. If you did, the whole crochet community would be at a loss.

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  24. Hi Mark – I saw the pattern on Rav, and thought well that’s too hard for me and went on past. Then I saw the CAL statement posted by someone on FB and…. to that end, I have purchased your pattern. The internet is both a horrid place and a community all at once, I’m so, so sorry those people came out of the woodwork at you. Crochet on… don’t let them win. Hugs from Oregon

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  25. I passed up the CAL because I felt I was too inexperienced. After reading this, I’ve purchased the pattern just as a bit of support. Don’t let the jerks ruin crochet for you- keep on keepin’ on. Hugs.

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  26. This is a stunning pattern, and I thank you for providing the pattern for free. I can’t wait until later in the year to work on it. It’s terrible how many keyboard bullies exist out there. I hope you continue your crochet passion, despite recent experiences.

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  27. I am heartbroken reading what you went through. I don’t understand what is wrong with people… firstly, what does your sexuality or the fact that English isn’t your native tongue have to do with your gorgeous crochet work? Second, what business is it of theirs anyway? And third… what do they expect to accomplish sending nasty messages like that?! I just do not understand, and it breaks my heart.

    Thank you for your gorgeous work you share with others. Please don’t let them make you give up on that. ❤ ❤ ❤

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  28. I am so sorry you were subjected to this bullying. Your pattern is gorgeous. Even though I rarely crochet, I knew I wanted to make this blanket. I hope some distance will bring back the joy for you. I will put love for you into every stitch.

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  29. Mark, I also will honor you and do your CAL. The anger that rages in me toward those that dis-honored you is two fold. Shame on every one of them! You have a beautiful gift, please don’t let these ass-hats bring you down. I believe in Karma, they will receive their due diligence sooner than later. I Love each and everything you create, you are a GIFT to us all. ❤ Love and many many hugs

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  30. Dear Mark,

    You are awesome. You are talented. You are wonderful. You are loved. You are needed. You are a gift to this dark world. You are an amazing person. YOU are APPRECIATED.

    I happened upon this through a facebook post, and I want you to know that I love your work. I will be purchasing your pattern, and I will be making this. Please know that those who criticize aren’t happy people. Happy people don’t purposely hurt others. Continue to shine your light because there are many, many people who need you and your art.

    Tschüss!

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    1. Hi Mark, I have been crocheting now for a couple of years now, & I’m not a massive user of social media so one day looking for something to do other than baby blankets in the usual blue, pink, lemon & white, I came across your work purely by accident, & I’m a huge fan, love your designs. I will be going ahead & purchasing the pattern anyway to show support, as you have given so many of your patterns for free prior to this. You have really taken what is thought of as an old lady’s or someone’s grandma’s hobby & turned it into a funky, modern hobby, you should be proud of yourself & your designs.

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  31. I am so sorry that this has been done to you it is unreal how people can be your blanket is extremely beautiful and thank you for making the English version free. When I get time I will definitely make it and send you pics.
    Don’t let the idiots get you down!

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  32. I’m so sorry you had this terrible experience. Just remember–there are as many good people out there as there are stupid ones. Don’t let this experience sour you on humanity. As for your pattern–I think your blanket is beautiful, and I am going to purchase it on Ravelry. And this is my first time visiting your blog, but it won’t be my last–your designs are amazing!!

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  33. I am so sorry and can’t believe what I read and what happened to you! You were absolutely right to cancel the event. As a fellow designer wish you all the best. All bad things people sent you way will bounce back to them. I feel sorry for them. They feel better by making other people feel bad.
    Natalia
    OutstandingCrochet.com

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  34. Mark, this is mostly a supportive community, I hate what some rude people have done to you, please do not let the few take from your creativity. You are a special designer, we need you. I will be buying your pattern, and will try my best to make something beautiful. I came across you with you variations on Nomad by fate, and it gave me so much inspiration for colourwork. Thank you. BLESS YOU and the team of 10. 💜💜💜

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  35. I’m so sad to read about all this negativity that has been directed at you. It is inexcusable and so disheartening. Usually I find that yarn-people are so kind and friendly. I hope that you will find peace in the coming months and be able to put this behind you, but I cannot imagine how you feel right now. Sending you happiness from Canada.

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  36. Unacceptable behavior by armchair critics. The reason I had opted out was a surgery that would interfere with the timing. THE ONLY REASON. Your personal life is NONE OF MY BUSINESS nor is it anyone else’s. My mom taught me a valuable lesson as a child, I’ve taught it to my kids, maybe I need to reach out to strangers too…. if you don’t have anything nice to say (or type) don’t say anything at all!

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  37. It’s deeply sad that something so positive can become so toxic. People needs to consider their behaviour and ask themselves: would I say this or behave like this in front of my friends or family when I’m in front of a screen? If they are, they need to take themselves away and get some counselling! Sorry about your experience. Don’t give up.

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  38. I first saw your CAL last month while on vacation, and saved it every which way possible so that I could find it again when returning home. I was shocked and disappointed to hear that you had to cancel. They say children can be so cruel, I guess those cruel children grew up to become cruller adults! I can only hope that they are in the minority…I can’t imagine the time and effort that went into making this beautiful project. I am the lucky one that you were willing to share your design to those who wish to follow. I am looking forward to starting this beautiful design! I thank you enough for keeping your hard work and amazing talent public for those who enjoy and appreciate your work. Stay strong and continue hooking 🙂

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  39. I’m so sorry for what you have had to go through. I don’t know what is wrong with people.
    I don’t crochet myself, but I love the idea of a CAL!
    I hope you can take some time away and then find the strength to continue to share your talents. We need artists like you to make this world a better place.
    Know that there are people out here who support you and appreciate you!

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  40. I’m so sorry for what you have had to go through. I don’t know what is wrong with people.
    I don’t crochet myself, but I love the idea of a CAL!
    I hope you can take some time away and then find the strength to continue to share your talents. We need artists like you to make this world a better place.
    Know that there are people out here who support you and appreciate you!

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  41. Oh how awfull people can be! I’m truly sorry you had to put up with this kind of s**t 😥
    The only thing we can do is : everytime we read ungly stuf like you recived, respond with : shame ,shame ,shame,shame ..shame on you.
    Sending you all the love from the Netherlands and i do hope you hold your head up high ❤

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  42. What is wrong with people? How can anyone treat a person like they did with you? Well, i think its a beautiful cal and you did a great job. I just bought you’re pattern in Dutch on Ravelry. I wish you all the best!

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  43. I was absolutely stunned by this news, and baffled that so many “people” would be nasty and critical. (My response to criticism is “Let me see what YOU made”) Your design is beautiful (my favorite was the same color sequence!); everyone I showed it to loved it. Bedankt voor alles wat je hebt gedaan, geef nooit op!!!!!

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  44. Sorry my English writing isn’t good, ik vind jouw patroon erg mooi en keek uit naar deze cal. Het is belachelijk dat mensen jou op deze manier benaderen. Als je het niet mooi vind dan volg je het niet en doe je niet mee! Ik volg je nu sinds korte tijd en vind jouw patronen erg mooi! Ik hoop dat je gesterkt word door de mooie berichten en blijf alsjeblieft ontwerpen. Een knuffel uit Nederland

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