Official CAL statement

This is a official CAL statement regarding the cancelation of this crochet-a -long project. In this statement I will give some explanation about this decision and how things will continue for everyone who already purchased something or was waiting to start with this CAL.

Let’s start by explaining why I came to this decision in first place. From the moment of the announcement of this project, it has been a continues flow of attention. Some good, but also a lot of bad and negative. Of course I was prepared for some negativity – you can’t make everyone happy and of course there would be some commenting or complaining here and there. To tackle this we (a team of 10 people) took months to prepare ourselfs for this and we wrote all possible information down in some files to tackle most of the simple questions relating to the CAL. From day one it was a constant flow of just asking away and almost spamming all channels with the most simple questions. Well, we expected that as people often first comment and ask before taking time to read something. So that was not the reason to cancel at all.

As said, from the moment the CAL is on, there is a HUGE load of negative comments. Most of them are received in my private communication portals, others were posted in the Facebook group. And with negative I don’t mean : “I don’t like it” or “it is all a bit confusing how it works” . No, there are a lot of other messages. And of course, it is just deleting and blocking, but in the end you see them all and it will be on your mind. And it just continues, how many you ignore, delete or block. It soon takes over the positive vibe a CAL has to bring and it ruins your drive to go on. To state some examples : in 4 days time I had to deal with 354 emails/messages which contained critics about me as a person, my gender, my sexuality, my language writing – native or not native, my crochet work which wouldn’t be good enough for a CAL, I did it to earn money, I would be a thief, I wouldn’t be honest and take provid of people, people find the need to send whole messages full of swear words…and I can continue for a while here. Besides that I’m not the only one inflicted by this all, there was also the need to argue with my testers/translators that their work wasn’t right. Posting photos of their work full of marked circles with correction options. First of all, how can you judge a design if you even haven’t seen a pattern yet, besides that…how do you think someone feels when her work is being exposured in front of thousands of people saying it sucks. That is just rude. Well I could continue on as there was many more…however I think you’ll have an idea now. And this is just a first week, how would this evolve when the CAL is actually running. Sorry everyone, but I’m also a human being with feelings and I draw a line here. I intended to host a crochet event, not pulling myself out there to let take away my dignity and selfrespect. If you feel like you need let some frustration go, just go outside for a good walk or shout it out on a place no one will see or hear you. People think they just can put down everything, scroll further along…but ever thought of the option that you actually saying something to someone on the other side and you possibly can hurt someone else.

As we already paused the Facebook group after laying down so many restrictions on different matters, people still continue with this kind of behaviour. In one weekend I again received 52 messages full of insults. Many of you commented with telling me to just remove or block the people who doesn’t behave, but this is not one or two and it is a full dayjob to moderate this. Explaining this all has made me decide to just cancel the entire CAL. Cancelation means the Facebook group will be deleted and the timeline of the CAL will be erased. So there will be no crochet-a-long anymore over ten weeks of time as stated. I designed this pattern as one of my best but it already has such a negative vibe that I can’t host it any longer with a positive intention. Only looking at my design makes me wanna throw it away. I’m done being used as a target to shoot on and this whole thing was meant to just create a beautiful event where we all could enjoy some happiness and creativity. But it seems this is impossible these days without having a online, virtual war against you. With people, stores and many more against you. And for those of you who think this decision is a bit dramatic, I am honest and not gonna lie on what you get when your expose yourself with something you did. But that doesn’t mean you have to just swallow it all and act happy. This is how things go and how wonderful the crochet community of which we often speak also can be. And it isn’t new, I have seen it with many events hosted for larger groups of crocheters/knitters, and I also have seen what it does to people. Well if I would just continue pretending this all isn’t happening I also wouldn’t take or teach a lesson from it.

Of course I realize this decision also delivers some inconveniance. But I have tried to create the best solutions possible. For everyone who purchased the pattern on Ravelry, you will receive the full pattern at once. I will send out an update with this information through Ravelry as well, but don’t worry….you receive the pattern for the fee payed. The same goes for everyone who liked to join with the free, English version here on the blog. In the menu on top of the blog you will find all parts of the CAL available from now on. The pattern on Etsy will be uploaded later around June, as there is so much negativity about this whole issue already selling it through Etsy, I don’t need any more of this for now. You can wait for some months.

Of course there are the yarn packs which you can order at different stores. Many of you ordered one and I would suggest just keeping it ordered and crochet the pattern once you receive it. The stores can’t help this and if you wanted to join the CAL in March, why still not make it. It doesn’t change a thing.

In fact I do hope many of you still will hold their own mini-CAL. Make it a tribute to my pattern. Maybe I myself have lost touch with it, you who intended to join still love creating it. Crocheting a part a week just for yourself is a good meditation and if you really need help you can always send a message through this website. I will try to help you where I can…on my time. But also respect my choice in this, it took a lot of courage to make this decision as I canceled a project of which I worked on for months and spend many hours, nights, money and effort in. And not only me, a lot of people with me. But I will not put myself out 8 hours a day besides a dayjob to just let people take advantage of me. Then you’ll have it and this is it. As this whole thing has left a real bad taste and feeling I intend to get out of the media for a while. I had a lot of new pattern work ready to be released already but I feel it is time to get off for a while. I’m sick of the world for now… I know there are some good folks around…but it seems there are even more negative people around. We were talking about a crochet thing here, why the need to judge someone personally and break down every single part of selfrespect and dignity one can have ? For all the ones who are responsible for this decision, think about that and the fact how you ruin the happiness of others….

Mark a.k.a. The Guy with the Hook

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    1. I completely respect your decision and feel sorry that some ungrateful and rude people made you feel bad. You are truly appreciated and I will definitely be going forward with this lovely design. All the best to you and thank you for all that you share. Pam

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    2. bonjour, j’adore ce que vous faites et votre travail. Je suis désolée d’apprendre ce qui est arrivé, c’est honteux, triste, déplorable. Je vous remercie pour toutes ces belles créations, toutes les explications, j’en ai acheté plusieurs et j’avais acheté le patron The spice market juste pour soutenir votre création, continuez je vous en supplie, ne vous laissez pas décourager par les imbéciles, ce que vous faites est magnifique, bravo bravo Bravo Monique depuis la France

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    3. I’m so sorry for this terrible experience. You and your team made a beautiful pattern!! There is no reason at all to call you names, I feel sad for you, I really do. There should only be joy around crocheting! I wish you all the good fibes you need to recover mentally!

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  1. I just want to say that i totally understand why you canceled the CAL and I’m so upset that people have let their trigger fingers get it this far. What happened to “if you don’t like it, shut your mouth and keep moving.” I love all your work and your willingness to share your patterns. I hope you don’t let these people ruin such beautiful work for good. You are talented and such an inspiration. Don’t let these fake people let you down.

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    1. I am sorry to hear this. I was looking forward to this. Please dont be a stranger. Your work is beautiful. Soon as I have some money, I plan on buying you other patterns.
      Lots of love!

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  2. Dear Mark,
    I can only sympathies with you on this very brave decision. It is not easy and can only imagine the vitriol you have had to endure and it is unnecessary.
    Please know that there are supporters out there and those that wish you only the best in life and this hobby of crochet.
    Thank you for sharing the reason for cancellation. I for one will be making this CAL.

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  3. beste Mark, zoals ik al schreef op de facebookpagina, ik ben er verdrietig over. Ik zit nu weer met tranen in mijn ogen als ik jouw verhaal over hoe je tot de beslissing bent gekomen om te stoppen met de CAL, opnieuw lees.
    Verbijsterend. Ik heb er geen woorden voor. Ik heb echt met je te doen.
    Ik hoop dat de rust binnenkort weerkeert voor je en dat je dan denkt aan al die mensen die je wel steunen en voor wie haken een plezierige bezigheid is en een prachtige hobby..
    Nogmaals alle liefs, mijn support heb je, hoe dan ook.
    Manuela van Veldhoven

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  4. I am so sorry for this horrible experience you are going through. I have only recently started designing my own patterns and this comes as a shock that people can make something that you worked so hard at feels worthless and destroy all the joy that comes with it. I pray the crochet community will lift you up and come out in there masses to support you. You definitely have my support! Best of luck with your future projects.

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  5. You are so right ppl are horrific !!
    I hope you continue your designs they are all beautiful with stunning colors.
    Maybe a closed grp would sort the problem if you want to try again.?
    That would be easier to remove unpleasent ppl.

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  6. I am so sorry you have had to deal with such negativity. It is not fair for people to be so mean. A little respect goes a long way. I think it is beautiful and totally understand why you cancelled it.

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  7. I really am so sorry this has happened to you. Some people are so unhappy in themselves they seem to seek to be cruel and unkind to others, with no thought as to the impact they cause.
    Your pattern is beautiful Mark, please don’t doubt yourself and come back soon. I, for one, admire your beautiful patterns and also your honest, human, dialogue. You are a breath of fresh air. X

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  8. I am so very sorry that people treated you like this. That they caused you to doubt your work, yourself, and to become personally hurt. I don’t know you, but I hope that time will heal the wounds that those jerks caused. Thank you so much for all of your hard work, time, money, effort, and love that you used to put something so beautiful into the world. The world needs beauty now, with all its ugliness. Thank you and much love and hugs from Canada.

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  9. I am so sorry you had to do this.
    But I do understand why.
    We have a little group on Fb and we will have our own little Cal.
    Please remenber you are very talented and I hope to see more from you in the future.

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  10. The pattern is beautiful and I will attempt on my own, but I will miss the CAL part. I am sorry you were bullied. I admire your talent and use of color. Joy in all things with yarn, human nature is another story!💕

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  11. Mark,
    It’s a sad day when people are so full of hate and ignorance that they flame a person.
    Please take the time you need for you. I hope you will find some help in dealing with all the negativity. They don’t know you, your real world friends, family and loved ones do.

    Een dikke knuffel

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  12. It makes me sad that you have to experience this. People who say just delete the messages don’t understand the problem. Don’t forget you are very talented. I fully understand that you have canceled the CAL. I already bought the pattern and material. It remains a very beautiful design that I will certainly make. That of course does not change.
    Due to circumstances I am much alone at home and by participating I could have felt connected to others by jointly crocheting the blanket and sharing everything via Facebook.

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  13. As a fellow designer, please remember, everyone has an opinion, to which they are entitled. The unfortunate part is they do not realize when to keep it to themselves. We take all the criticism and often our ‘buckets’s run out of space and just let it continue to pile in. You are an amazing, creative designer we all benefit from and want to have in our circle for many, many years to come. Do not let this distract you from continuing to share your work with those of us who truly love your work and appreciate the time and effort you freely give to us. Most of us hold you in the highest regard. Best Stitches!

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  14. I’m sorry this happened to you. People don’t think before they say things that can hurt people. I purchased the pattern on Ravelry and I’m going to make it. It’s beautiful. I wish you all the best from Holland.

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  15. Oh wow, wie schade. Ich kann Sie aber voll verstehen.
    Manche Menschen haben im www jeglichen Respekt verloren.
    Wissen oftmals nicht, wieviel Arbeit hinter so einem Design und so einem Event stehen.
    Ich hoffe Sie finden Ihren Glauben an die Menschheit und die kreative Gemeinschaft wieder.
    Bitte bitte keines Ihrer Designs in die Tonne treten. Sie sind alle wunderbar!!!

    Liebe Grüße Diana

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  16. Hallo, lieber Mark. Ich kann leider nicht so gut Englisch da ich aus Österreich komme. Ich hoffe sie können meine Zeilen aber trotzdem verstehen. Zuerst möchte ich Ihnen sage, dass sie meiner Meinung ein wundervoller Häkeldesigner sind. Ihre Anleitungen sind traumhaft und einzigartig. Zweitens finde ich es sehr schlimm, dass es Menschen gibt die ihre eigene Unzufriedenheit an anderen Menschenüber Sozial Media auslassen. Niemand, absolut niemand hat das Recht über andere Menschen zu urteilen, egal welche Bereiche des Lebens dies betrifft. Sie haben das Recht so zu leben wie sie wollen. Ich hoffe, dass diese Angelegenheit sich nicht negativ auf ihre psychische Gesundheit auswirkt. Sie haben soviele kreative Ideen die es noch zu vollenden gibt. Neidische und eifersüchtige Menschen wird es immer geben und unsere Aufgabe wird es sein, sich von ihnen nicht hinunterziehen zulassen. Ich würde mich freuen wenn ich noch viele ihrer wunderbaren Entwürfe zu sehen bekomme. Sie sind nicht nur eine Augenweide sondern sprechen auch die Seele an. Ich hoffe, sie können meine Worte übersetzen und ich verbleibe mit vielen guten Wünsche für sie. Margit aus Tirol

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  17. What kind of people are these, trying to cut your heart? I am incredibly sorry and I tell you: I am very happy about your pattern I have bought.:-))) In Germany, bullying is punished with prison. What they do with you, I equate with reputation murder. Please always know that they have no idea. Why else so brutal to you. I love your effort and the wonderful idea of ​​your wonderful blanket. Thank you so much! I wish you shake off these experiences with people who don’t know what they’re doing. There are much more people loving you than the beasts. ❤ <3<3

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  18. Dear mr guy with the hook,
    So sorry to hear. I can understand why.
    Hope you don’t stop designing and creating your beautiful pièces.
    Going to make this pattern with all positivity in my hook,(sorry for the Dutch english) hope you’re doing well and as we say in the Netherlands heads up.
    Big hug from Angelien

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  19. I’m not one to usually leave comments, but I feel the need to express something. For every one person who is making rude/mean comments, there are many of us who appreciate you working hard to bring beautiful artwork to us. I have only ever do e one other CAL. Not because I haven’t wanted to, but because I want to love and be excited about a piece that I am going to put that much time, money, and effort I to. The spice CAL was the first thing that had caught my attention since the last one I did. It is beautiful, the colors and textures are amazing. I hope that you find the love of creating again, and the mean comments can become a distant, faded memory. Much love!

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  20. Dear guy with a hook. I do not know you and i live in South Africa. I just want to tell you that i am so so sorry that you were targeted by a lot of realy rude ugly people with no manners at all. It is a sad world we live in. So i for one is sending you sunshine love hugs and well wishes. I bought your pattern and are looking forward to crocheting it and will send you pictures once finished.

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  21. I love your work, thank you for sending the whole pattern, I will dedicate my blanket to you! Rise above this, some people are ugly inside and out, don’t ever stop believing in yourself!

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  22. I am so sorry — your work is brilliant – your spirit is kind and generous – I am sorry that all of those lacking those traits felt compelled to negatively comment. I had planned on using stash but will now buy a yarn pack – you have my support. Bless you and thank you!!!!! Please come back when you can – you will be missed in the meantime.

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  23. So sorry to hear that you have had to deal with such nasty people. I’ve just had a quick look through your pattern and it looks really well written with excellent images so high praise to you and the team for outstanding work. Sadly there seems to be a lot of people who look for any avenue to be unpleasant and I’m sad that you have been a victim to these unwarranted acts. Stay strong and please, keep up the great work – I couldn’t do it, even after nearly 60 years of crocheting and I rely on the skills of people such as you to help me achieve beautiful creations – thank you

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  24. I’m sorry about people Mark. Not everyone is horrible but the ones who are just need to get their own lives in order. Live, love and let live.

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  25. I’ve just read your anouncement. I didn’t intend to participate in the cal, I have so much on my hook already. But what I do know is, I was and am in aw with the pattern. It is a shock to hear what peple (can I even name them that) did to you and your wonderfull team. The only thing I can do now is sending you virtual huggs. Hoping that you can enjoy your wonderful work once more ❤

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  26. Hi
    I send this message with such a sad heart because there is never space for mean and ugly people and especially not in our special crochet world. I bought the pattern and intend making it with all the love I’m sure you designed it with
    I hope you heal soon coz they are not worth your unhappiness
    Lots of thoughts and hugs

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  27. With tears in my eyes i read your statement. I completeley understand your decision to stop with this project. Unbelieveable that this happens to you. Is this the world we live in, probably yes. I do hope we can enjoy patterns in futere again. I am going to make your pattern and think of you while I’m making it.

    Liefs en groetjes Joseline

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  28. Beste Mark, zou het kunnen dat er één enkel iemand achter dit negatieve gezeur zit? Iemand die zich niet goed behandeld voelt door jou? En die nu wraak neemt door allerlei mensen tegen jou op te zetten? Dit lijkt me zo extreem! Ik kan me maar 2 soorten mensen voorstellen: zij die het een fantastisch patroon vinden en zij die er niks aan vinden. En dan hou je toch gewoon je mond. Ik heb nooit een Cal gedaan maar vind de jouwe zo mooi dat ik er al over dacht om het eens te proberen. Laat je niet gek maken!!! Veel sterkte, Joan

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  29. Dear Mark, what they say about you says more about them. You are incredibly talented and your designs are beautiful. Don’t let anyone make you doubt yourself or your work. Take all the time you need, but make sure you return and continue to make us happy with your designs!
    A virtual hug from a big fan

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  30. Wow, I’m so sorry that you’ve had to deal with so much negativity and hatefulness, especially that which had nothing to do with the pattern. People don’t understand how much hard work goes into these things. I hadn’t seen this pattern before but after looking it up, I think it’s absolutely beautiful and bought it.

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  31. I am absolutely raging with anger at the stupidity of some people. You do not deserve this Mark, nor does anyone out here who puts their hearts into creating.
    You did the best thing to protect yourself, love as always xxx

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  32. Och Mark. Zo erg voor je en de hele haak community. Ik vermoed dat het een hele moeilijke, maar terechte beslissing is. Wat de commentaren ook zijn. Heel veel sterkte en weet dat er naast die *grmpf***ckgt*-mensen ook super veel andere zijn, die het echt goed met je menen.
    Dikke virtuele knuffels,

    Groetjes Sofie

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  33. Dear Mark,
    I don’t often comment, but I feel very, very strongly that I should now. I am outraged by how you were treated. Most of what I would say has already been said above but I want this comment section to flood with hundreds of comments that show support for you.
    Be you and stay you, always. You are a beautiful, gifted human being and lots of people love you.
    Lots of love from a Limburgse who live in South Carolina, USA.

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  34. I’m so sorry that you are having to deal with this negativity and actually surprised that this would happen in the crochet world. Hang in there. You have lots of talent and mean people can’t change that.

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  35. I’m so sorry you are cancelling the CAL, as I had been looking forward to it, but I completely understand why.
    I had planned to use the free version but I will purchase from Ravelry to show my support of you. It is a gorgeous pattern. You have much talent!

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  36. I am sorry to hear that you’re cancelling the CAL, but I understand your decision. And, I still plan to complete the project. It’s beautiful!! Wishing you all the best!

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  37. Wow. I am really shocked to hear about all the nasty things people say… Just wanted to let you know I really love your design and appreciate the effort you put into your work.

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  38. Oh my god, Mark, I am so sorry you had to go through this! There are far too many stupid people out there! I didn’t intend to do this CAL, simply because I have so many other projects on the go, but having read your statement, I am now going straight to Ravelry to purchase the pattern. It’s not much, but I wish to show my support in some small way.
    Please do mind yourself! xxx

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  39. O.M.G the things some people do to another person! Your design is so beautiful and i love it! Thank you for the parts in english! I hope you feel better soon,you are perfect as you are! Greetings en take care! Christel from Holland

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  40. There are no words to describe the horror I felt in reading your statement. I just don’t understand ANYTHING about this. I’m so sorry you and your testers had to endure days of abuse and vitriol. I’m glad to see the previous comments here be so supportive–may their love support and nurture you as you recover from this attack. With love, Patty in America

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